There’s no getting around being hurt. At some point, we’ll be hurt by the actions of others and no doubt we’ll hurt those we love most. Somehow, those closest to us always seem to get the brunt of our toughest hurts. Isn’t it ironic?
I know I’ve had my fair share of hurt and yet still, I don’t always respond the way I’d like. It would be great if I could hit the easy button and instantly be nice when someone pushes my buttons.
I don’t see that actually happening anytime soon, for the record. Unless I’m living in a tropical place and eating bonbons without a care in the world, HAHA.
When it comes to real life hurt, no matter what side of the situation we’re on, there are two options –
I must process hurt through the filter of God’s love, not the tangled pieces of my heart. – Lysa TerKeurst
I can manipulate and meddle and gossip and hold grudges. I can be in a bad mood, hold back being nice and friendly, and act like my feelings are more important than everyone else. That would certainly all fall under processing through the tangled pieces of my heart, I do believe.
I can bite my tongue, press pause on my reactions, take a few minutes to think before I speak and ask God to give me grace upon grace. I can step out of the room when I’m losing my temper. I can remember always that hurt people hurt people and that more times than not, the hurt being hurled in my direction isn’t likely 100% my fault (sometimes it might be, though, because I can be brutally mean to my family, y’all).
The filter of God’s love.
“For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love. For the whole law can be summed up in this one command: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’” Galatians 5:13-14
This option seems a bit easier in the long run. I’d save myself a lot of unnecessary anxiety, worry, and frustration.
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