4 years ago today we lost my last living grandparent. Glennie the Great went to meet Jesus on November 22, 2013.
This was one of our last family photos – we carved pumpkins at mom and dad’s house while she watched from her bed.
Oh, how I miss her.
Actually – I miss all of my grandparents, terribly.
Glennie Odelle Johnson Kelly
Willie Rufus Kelly
Alfred ‘Bud’ Bellomy
Eunice Genevar Potter Bellomy
Ironically, today I wore a shirt that belonged to my Papa Kelly. We were headed to the tree farm and everyone was planning to wear flannel shirts. I don’t actually own a flannel shirt, and Brian found one in his closet that belonged to Papa. He let Brian borrow it one Halloween when we dressed as country bumpkins.
I held it close to my nose and it instantly took me right back to their little house in Wadesboro.
As I ironed the shirt, I was overwhelmed with thoughts about how many times Glennie the Great must have ironed this shirt. It was worn at the collar. Maybe it was one of his favorites.
And then Brian noticed a random purple button as we were out in the sun at the tree farm today! I had to laugh!! Seriously, Great?? You had THOUSANDS of buttons in that little house. And you replaced it with a purple one??
Oh, how I wish I could sit around the table with all of them tonight – just to talk.
The questions I would ask. Oh, to have that chance again.
I would have loved to know my grandparents now that I’m an adult and have children of my own. My perspective has changed so much in the last few years. What seemed so important back then doesn’t seem all that important now.
I would have asked them more questions about life. I would have asked them about their dreams and their childhood.
I would have asked them about their parents.
I would have asked them how to deal with kiddos that complain and argue and tattle 24 hours a day.
I would have asked more questions. I would have had more meaningful conversations.
Tonight as I reflect on those grandparents that have gone on in my own family, I leave you with one challenge.
Surviving Thanksgiving – Starr’s Tip #3
Put your differences and electronics away, ask ALL the questions - learn your family legacy.
Maybe you don’t have grandparents either.
OK. Let’s ask our parents. Let’s ask our siblings. Let’s ask our friends.
Let’s be thankful for the days we’re given. For they surely don’t last.
Our culture is all about shallow relationships. But that doesn’t mean we should stop looking each other in the eye and having deep conversations. – Francis Chan
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