This summer we decided to be different.
While everyone else was out creating their summer bucket list of must do items, I felt a strong urge inside my soul that our family needed to give ourselves permission to say NO to keeping up with everyone else.
Thus, the original summer “UNbucket” list was born.
Annnnd now it’s finally FALL y’all!!
Here we go – 5 things we’re saying NO to this fall – the “UNbucket” list:
#1 - decorating the porch
Let’s talk for a hot minute about this photo.
This is exactly how our front porch looks at this very moment. Note: there were 3 pumpkins and someone decided to take one on Halloween night. Guess they needed a pumpkin more than us. We’re not bitter at all. Brock may be just a bit bitter, but he’ll be fine. He just talks about the “boy who took the pumpkin” each morning as we walk out the door.
Don’t get me wrong. I would LOVE to have one of those magazine-like front door fallscapes. We just don’t have the time or the energy in this season of 2017. There is a lot on our plate with our future property and running a business and keeping up with 3 small kids. Our front porch isn’t a priority.
Also – we didn’t carve or decorate pumpkins this year. [gasp]. Guess what? No one even noticed. Our kids didn’t say a word. This was one tradition I was willing to give up because it isn’t necessarily my favorite. I love so many others and I want to save my energy for things like Christmas trees.
Side note – I just remembered we have a turkey wreath in the closet from last year. That WILL WORK!! YESSS!!! Door decorated. Done.
#2 - an ornament exchange party
For the past 4-5 years I’ve hosted an ornament exchange party at our house in the fall. This might be one of my favorite things ever!!
This event has been one of the hardest to coordinate if I’m being completely honest with myself. While I love the end result, the stress impact is wayyy too great for me and my family right now. I am a people pleaser and I do anything I can to make others happy – especially when it comes to events like these.
This year I’m stepping back and taking a much needed break. Don’t worry. I have BIG plans to bring this type of event back when we get our new property!!
#3 - in person shopping
Hello, my name is Starr, and I’m a shopaholic.
I love shopping and walking in stores and seeing the trees and the lights and smelling the apple cider and hearing the Christmas music. I LOVE LOVE LOVE CHRISTMAS and everything this season brings.
Far too often in years past, I’ve found myself struggling to set aside time to actually go shopping and find the perfect gifts. The result ends in me running through a store that has shelves that have been picked over and settling for whatever will work. That is not fun. At all.
I can’t even believe I’m typing this – y’all – I’m gonna ORDER THE MAJORITY OF OUR GIFTS ONLINE THIS YEAR.
I’m even planning to sit down and do it all in one day…
Who is this person????
My plan is to put on some Christmas music, warm up some apple cider and find the gifts online – mostly supporting family owned small businesses. YES! That is a win-win.
This will also help us to stay on budget and scale back the Christmas shopping. My goal is to get practical gifts – using some of our favorite items – and support the businesses and friends that matter to us.
#4 - attending ALL THE THINGS
You know it’s coming. The schedules are already getting crazy. I have 3 Thanksgiving lunches and 1 orthodontist appointment on my calendar next week AT THE SAME TIME.
Listen to me. You cannot go to all the things. You cannot be all the places. You cannot make all the people happy.
Stop killing yourself, mama.
It’s ok to do what you can. I didn’t make Kylie’s first field trip last week. It was okay. I walked into Bible study late this morning and had to leave early. It was okay. I’m not going to be able to be at all 3 Thanksgiving lunches at the same time next week. It’s going to be okay.
The quicker we can give ourselves permission to do what we can and actually be OKAY with that, the better on our hearts and souls.
No more beating ourselves up for not being superwoman.
#5 - put down the dream stealer
Our phones are stealing our attention.
Our phones are distracting us from the real people in front of our faces.
Our phones are causing us to miss the moments.
Our phones are stealing our dreams.
My eyes have recently been opened in so many ways to the addiction that is the smart phone.
Btw, I’m guilty – so so so so guilty, and I’m preaching to myself here.
As the holidays approach and we have more time with our family, I’m committed to keeping the phone in my purse more and having real conversations. I want to be engaged fully, not distracted and half there.
If you missed this video I shared last week, please take a few moments and I promise you won’t be able to get some of these points out of your mind.
How about you?
Be encouraged in this new season to make your own family UNbucket list and decide how you’re going to be intentional with your time and your energy. We only have this one life! Let’s go live it fully!
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