Can I be honest?
I’ve had a rotten attitude over the years when it comes to family get-togethers.
And I’ve been super convicted lately.
We all have dysfunctional families. ALL. OF. US.
Behind those smiling faces – you’ll usually find drama, hurt, grudges and bitterness.
We can choose to let our differences eat away at our most valuable relationships, OR allow God to use the good, the bad, and the ugly when it comes to our families to live out grace.
I came from a really small family. My dad was an only child and for most of my life, I was an only child too. My parents had a baby when I went away to college, ICYMI.
Most of our holidays were spent with 5 of us – me, my mom and dad, and my grandma and papa – who lived next door.
Occasionally, we got to visit my mom’s family in Tennessee – but that was usually only once or twice a year.
We didn’t get together with my extended family much, even though most of them lived in the same small town. Ugly family feuds kept us from all getting together, like most families.
Then, I married Mr. Wonderful (aka my brain).
HE HAD A HUGE FAMILY Y’ALL.
And they got together alllll the time!!!
I was not used to this. This was too much. I became super critical of all the times we needed to be at birthday parties and family reunions and dinners and whatever else they could come up with.
Why in the world did I feel so challenged by this sudden large family situation? I’m not really sure. I felt threatened and aggravated and I had a terrible attitude most days when it came to family get-togethers.
Brian took the brunt of my awful attitude. For that, I am so sorry, Brian. Please forgive me.
As we journey into 14 years later, God has been working on this critical heart. Most recently, He’s been challenging me to #clearthestage with my attitude towards family.
Fact: Our family won’t last forever.
I miss my grandparents more than I can express.
Oh, how I wish I had made it more of a priority to spend time with them when they were here.
Family feuds are still part of our everyday life and they are currently limiting our very own family from spending time together. It’s heartbreaking, actually.
The more time I spend with our extended family lately, the more I realize how blessed we are. How could we bypass this opportunity to learn from those that have created our family legacy?
I’ve decided to start with me and my crew.
We will take a stand to make family a priority.
If there are get-togethers, we will do everything we can to be there. And my attitude will be much better than my crazy younger self.
How about you? Have you avoided family get-togethers too?
Let’s start fresh. Let’s live out grace. It might not be easy. It might not be pretty. But, oh it will be worth it. Let’s see what God can do with our willing hearts.
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