#trashouttuesday / the day I trashed out my excuses for spontaneous company in our home

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Today’s #trashouttuesday post isn’t necessarily about getting rid of clutter, but a habit that is a result of our cluttered life and home.

2017 has been a year of us inviting more people over into our home (one of our family goals for the year, in fact), but I usually plan those visits and we have a massive family clean up day before people actually come in. Anybody else do that?? Ya know, throw all our crap upstairs out of sight!! #truth

When it comes to spontaneous visitors, I’m not the best…and so unprepared! I’m likely to make you stand outside on the porch if you just stop by. That’s not a joke. True panic sets in when our front room looks like a tornado and the door bell rings. My words to Brian when that happens, “Don’t you dare let anyone come in this house!!!!”

And y’all thought I had it all together…not hardly.

One of Kayla’s friends from school lives in our neighborhood and they’ve been trying all summer to find time and play together. Each opportunity they reach out, Kayla has been involved in summer camps and not available. This afternoon they sent another message and my immediate response was, “Our house is a wreck and if I let her come over to play she’ll surely go tell her mom all about what a mess we are!”

Then I thought about the Be Still Mama Bible Study I attended just this morning and how our topic was all about the struggle we have as moms always trying to measure up and be enough.

Our house isn’t clean enough.
Our marriage isn’t romantic enough.
Our car isn’t new enough.
My waist isn’t small enough.
My paycheck isn’t enough.
I don’t keep up with the laundry or dishes enough.
I don’t cook homemade healthy meals enough.
My job performance isn’t recognized enough.
Our children aren’t well behaved enough.
Our house isn’t decluttered enough.

Believe me, these are lies I hear over and over like a broken record in my own brain all the time. As women we can mistakenly feel like we’re supposed to have superpowers and miraculously juggle all these responsibilities perfectly – with a smile on our sleep deprived faces.

Nope.

Enough is enough.

The truth is we’ll never be enough, no matter how hard we try.

But, God is!

If we were always enough in our own strength, we would be like God.

We cannot be God to people, we were never designed to be!” – Leigh Anderson

 

So, what did I do on this Tuesday afternoon?

#1 – I took a nap. I haven’t been getting enough sleep and this mama was dragging. Naps are such a wonderful thing. We shouldn’t feel guilty for taking them when we can. Having a nap meant I would be a much nicer version of me with my family during the evening hours.

#2 – I invited Kayla’s friend over for dinner, despite the mess sitting in our front room as you walk in the door. No more making excuses that our house isn’t clean enough – who flippin’ cares????

They certainly didn’t. The girls walked right past the mess and into the playroom, which was beautifully clean, I might add!

Brock just stood there in amazement at all the giddy girly silliness going on.

He decided it would be more fun to go watch The Polar Express.

Our evening was such a fun time of friendship. Here’s to looking beyond the mess and our shortcomings and loving the memories we create together.

 

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How do you feel like you never measure up in life? What lies play in your mind of not being enough? I challenge you tonight to lay those lies down at the cross and start living through God being enough for every single thing you need. He is so faithful.

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