I’m learning every single day that no marriage is immune from difficulties and struggles and the risk of divorce and affairs and all the enemy throws our way to divide us from our spouses.
Not one. Not your marriage. Not my marriage. None.
One of my personal goals in 2017 has been to have a weekly date night with my husband.
Whuuut, you say? Every week, Starr??
I want to be like Ellie and Carl on the movie Up. I want an adventure every single day and I want Brian by my side.
PS – see this movie and grab your box of tissues.
I want to remember why we fell in love. I don’t ever want to forget.
Sure, we work together and spend A LOT OF TIME TOGETHER. ALL THE TIME REALLY>>>.
I love it. And we still do dates anyways.
To clarify – as in a date – I mean just me and Brian. There is a time to build relationships with other couples and such, but dating ALONE is so critical. Being alone gives a special vulnerability that you can’t hide from. There’s no one else to distract the discussion. There’s only you and your spouse.
The past few weeks have been a little crazier than normal for us and we’ve not been in our normal routine (like we really have a normal routine, who am I kidding???).
On this #slowitdownSunday we’re doing our hot date thing. We don’t ever remember to take cute photos before we leave the house, so I settle for selfies in the car and they fit us just fine.
There’s a scripture in the book of Hebrews that talks about how we shouldn’t neglect meeting with others. All my life I’ve heard this used in the context of going to church and how we need community with our church family. I absolutely agree 100% with this.
But tonight I read a version of this scripture (NLT) and for the first time I thought about my relationship with my husband.
23 Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. 24 Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. 25 And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.
Hebrews 10:23-25 (NLT)
A few takeaways I’m remembering when it comes to my marriage:
#1 – hold tight to hope – God keeps His promises
There will always be hope in our relationship and marriage. In the darkest days I can cling to scripture and know that God will not fail me. It won’t always be easy, but there will always be hope.
#2 – think of ways to motivate each other in love and good works
How can I encourage and motivate my man? How can I continually show him love and do small things to make his life easier? How can I put him first, ahead of my needs and wants? These are all things I want to make a priority.
#3 – let us not neglect meeting together
Dates are necessary. That can be walks in the neighborhood, dinner out, a drive around looking for land. We need dedicated time to talk, to laugh, to dream and to be us. This doesn’t happen without intention and purpose. It won’t just happen without planning.
#4 – encourage one another
If I don’t lift up and encourage my man, who will? Believe me, the enemy will send people to distract and disrupt. I want to be present. I want to be available. I want to be a joy to my husband and the reason he wants to come home. I don’t want to be negative Nellie. Call me encouraging Starr!!
Brian, thank you for loving me well. I love dating you.
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