Clutter can come in many different shapes and form.
Clutter in the home.
Clutter in the mind.
Clutter in the body.
Clutter in the soul.
Clutter can also come in the form of an overly busy family schedule. We’ve been there, done that, too many times to count.
I’m tired and exhausted from doing busy. I’m tired and exhausted from signing my family up to do too much, running here and there, making mad dashes from one event to the next. The expectations I put on myself for trying to keep up with everyone else are ridiculousness. It starts and ends with me. The time has come –
It. Has. To. Stop.
Summer is the perfect opportunity to slow down and get intentional with what we allow on our calendars. Now is the time to say NO more, so that we can allow our family to have our best yes.
In a season where everyone is all about figuring out their summer bucket list, I’m over here thinking I need more of an UNbucket list. Anyone else with me??
5 Things We’re Saying NO to This Summer – The UNbucket List
#1 – NO to social media being the boss of me
I will not allow social media to fill an empty void in my soul and replace the real life family I have in front of me. I will not let social media boss me around with its fancy live videos and stories and snaps and filters. I will not live in FOMO (fear of missing out) but I will live real life and realize that there are only 18 summers – and half of those are now gone with my oldest (GULPPPPP how did that happen so fast???).
#2 – NO to feeling like I have to prove myself by working harder and working longer hours
Hustling can be good for a season. Hustling can be deadly long term. Owning your own business creates extra pressure at times to be everything to everyone. The expectations we put on ourselves to out perform and out hustle the competition is unhealthy. Time to stand up and say enough is enough. My family is important. My sanity is important. I’m going to take time to nurture them and me. Now is a great time to do that. I may not answer your email fast enough, I may not meet every deadline. I’m giving myself permission right now for that to be OKAY.
#3 – NO to planning an expensive vacation
This has always been one of our family traditions. We don’t vacation in the summer. The beaches are SUPER expensive. The crowds are unbearable (at least for me). And the pressure to do it all and fit it in while school is out is daunting. We just don’t do it. We will take a few days here or there to do something simple. We will not do what everyone else seems to be doing just because.
#4 – NO to daily distractions that take me away from being present
Cell phones. Social media. Laundry. Work. To-do lists. Cleaning. All of these things can be good, but they can also cause me to be distracted and not fully present with my family. I’m asking God to reveal to me those distractions and to help me guard my time and space so that I can be the best possible wife, mom and friend that I can be in this season.
#5 – NO to having days that become so filled and crammed
Spontaneity is one of my gifts. I’m a terrible planner. I’m a fly by the seat of my pants kind of girl. Having a calendar full of appointments and commitments limits me to give my family the gift of spontaneous freedom. I’m carefully weighing every event that comes to our attention with the reality that it will leave less time to just be us. That is what I want more of – time to just be us.
How about you? Have you sat down lately to make an UNbucket list? What can you say NO to this summer to make it the best one yet?
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