#1wordwednesday / 10 things I {LEARNED} this spring

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Learn

Learning

Learneth (this would be the KJV, right??)

{Learned}

Insert me putting my glasses down on my nose and pretending to be a “learned” student – having much knowledge acquired by study….bhahahahahha!!!

No, not quite.

For me it’s more like, “Lord, haven’t we {LEARNED} enough lessons this week??????”

No, wrong again.

Full disclosure – this is what I look like right now as I type this blog, having not showered yet today. Gorgeousness, I know. Real life, people. Real life. Also my nose looks really big in that photo.

God is constantly teaching me how to step back and consider my heart, my attitude, my tone, my words, my actions. There is something to be {LEARNED} each day I’m given on this earth.

The real question is this: will I stop long enough to pay attention to the lesson He is teaching? Easier said than done, for sure.

Part of paying attention is writing down what you’ve learned. Inspired by Emily P. Freeman and her quarterly practice of “What We Learned”, that’s exactly what I’m doing for today’s #1wordwednesday post.

Here are 10 things I {learned} this spring in no particular order.

#1. No matter how long you’ve been parenting, you’ll never get it right 100% of the time and there is no easy button.

We’ve been doing this parenting gig for 9+ years. And let me tell you – it ain’t easy. Each child is different, each season has its own peculiar difficulties and each dramatic meltdown can make you feel like you’re losing your mind!!! I don’t care who you are – parenting is not for the weak. We had our toughest night of parenting ever this spring and it caused me to step back and learn how I can change and become a better mom. You can read more about that here if you missed it.

And also – those people with nothing but perfect kids and perfect family photos on the internet are liars. Don’t you be fooled for one second. They have kids that don’t sleep and kids that throw tantrums and kids that destroy clean rooms in 2.3 seconds. Their kids have pooped in the tub at some point, too.

 

#2. Every family (even my own) needs help learning how to get along with the people who matter most!Β 

If you’re like me and sometimes struggle with knowing what to say or how to react with people in your family, you will LOVE this book and the practical advice Gary Morland gives from his own personal experiences of God’s redeeming grace. Introducing the next book I’m planning to lead in our online book club,Β A Family Shaped by Grace – and EEEEK – it’s written by my real-life friend, Gary (from New Life 91.9, as the locals might remember).

Gary’s new book releases this coming week and I’ll be sharing more soon, but right now if you pre-order the book online, you’ll get TONS of free bonus goodies from Gary! Tip: as of today the book is <$9 on Amazon and by pre-ordering, you’re guaranteed to get the cheapest price they offer between now and the release date! Hurry if you want the free bonuses, they are only good through Monday, June 5.

 

#3. I could absolutely be OK living in a tiny house, as long as it looks like this one.

Bigger is not always better. Walking through this house inspired me to simplify and rid our life of the distractions that are TOO MUCH STUFF.

This lesson is from Gary too, y’all! He’s so wise. But his wife Brenda gets more credit on this one, I do believe.

 

#4. Blondes have more fun. Maybe. So I only went half blonde, ha!

I drastically changed up my hair this spring. The verdict is still out on if I’ll keep it like this for a while…

I like it better when it’s curly. And I’ve curled it all of 2 days since I had it done a month ago. Dad isn’t crazy about it. Shocker. It took him 2 weeks to ask me if I colored my hair brown or blonde. I told him both.

 

#5. Online grocery shopping is the best thing since sliced bread.

WHYYYY have I taken so long to try out this marvelous concept??? I’m working on a review of my experiences. More to come on that.

 

#6. Every piece of land in Union County that Brian and I try to buy seems to be either a gazillion dollars or ALREADY UNDER CONTRACT!

If you’ve been involved in our local real estate market lately, you likely get my frustrations. As we chase after the dream God has placed on our hearts to build a property, it seems this involves a lot of waiting and a lot of trust. These are two things I may not do well, so no better time to learn than the present. If you need me I’ll be riding around doing prayer circles in the 5 mile vicinity around our house. Surely somebody out there wants to sell us some land!! Surely.

 

#7. One of the greatest gifts I can give my family right now involves our home.

It’s no secret we live a busy adventure in the Haigler house. I’ve felt stirred by God lately to stay home more and to get our house in order. That has involved cleaning out, letting go and finding a place for everything we own. It’s a slowwwww process, but worthwhile and more needed than I ever thought. This is changing our family for the good.

Here’s an example of our current progress:

 

#8. Hi, my name is Starr. And I have a problem finishing things.

Ok, so this is not ground breaking news. I’ve known for a long time that one of my weaknesses is starting but not having the motivation or will power to finish. This isn’t just at home, it’s all parts of my life. Over the past few months I’ve come to realize how this weakness is holding me back and creating extra distractions. Time to change. I’ve set new guidelines for myself and put it out there for Brian and the whole world to see (doesn’t the whole world read the daily Starr???). Help me stay accountable on this. If you see me not finishing ANYTHING please chase me down with a broom and tell me to finish what I started.

 

#9. Sometimes God allows us to experience brokenness so that we can relate and encourage others that are walking a similar journey.

This season has personally been one of walking through brokenness in ways I’ve never experienced in my 36+ years. It’s been lonely, confusing and down right hard some days. At the same time, it’s been a beautifully welcomed perspective. Each time God takes us through a situation my mind keeps going back to what He has called Brian and I to do with our future property. I didn’t realize 6 months ago when I wrote the words reclamation and restoration on a sheet of paper with goals for our property that God would teach me what that actually looks like. Oh, how my heart longs even more to work on this dream and create this space to welcome all of us who are broken.

 

#10. We’ve been folding our clothes the wrong way.

I still can’t get over this. I still want to learn how. I’m considering holding a class to teach my kids how to fold like this. Not. Even. Joking. You can bring your kids too. We’ll call it a “folding playdate.”

 

 

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What have you {learned} this spring? I’d love to hear from you!

Grab a sheet of paper and jot down your own list. Don’t put it off – if you’re like me you need to do it right now or you’ll forget, ha!

If you’re a blogger, you can click on over to Emily’s blog and add your link to the bottom of her post. It’s fun to join this community of writers and see the lessons we’re all learning in different parts of our lives.

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