#slowitdownSunday / surprised by motherhood – real life with the Haiglers

the daily Starr slow it down Sunday

Mother’s Day – one of those days on social media where you see images of all the beautiful families.

Most of them don’t share real life.

We do.

I’m here to make you feel better about embracing the life you have with all its beautiful imperfections.

My kids really do love me…I promise…

I don’t even know…

Oh, look – Kylie finally decided to smile!!

How many photos does it take to get a couple great ones??? It’s like a Tootsie Roll pop – the world may never know.

Being real is part of what I love about life. I don’t want anyone to ever think we have it all together. Just come spend 10 minutes at our house. You’ll go home smiling and feeling sooo good about the things you do well!!!

As I thought about being real on this day, I was reminded of one of my favorite books as we #slowitdownSunday. How about a few nuggets of wisdom?

Surprised By Motherhood – by Lisa-Jo Baker

Several years ago, I found this book at our public library and decided to check it out. This is a beautiful story of a real life mom who opens up about the reality of motherhood – the good, bad and ugly.

Nugget #1 – If you think this is a how-to book on motherhood, think again.

No – there is no road map. Every journey of motherhood is uniquely different. Some adopt, some foster, some give birth, etc. Yes, we have similarities – but our stories are all so different.

Believe me, I’ve learned over the years that sometimes mothering is better without the advice of all the other well-meaning moms. Sometimes you have to figure out what works for you and your family – and that could be wayyyy different from your friends.

Nugget #2 – The Gospel lives in our messy chaos.

Being real and opening up to others that have the same struggles is where God uses our messes to become our message. We can relate when we let the walls fall down and admit our pain, our struggles and our shortcomings. We find that we’re not alone and there’s more people than you realize sitting in the background raising their hands saying, “me too!”

Nugget #3 – Glory comes camouflaged in chaos.

This quote makes me feel good. Gracious alive y’all – I must have a LOT OF GLORY in store – cause we sure do have a LOT OF CHAOS!!! Hahahahah.

Nugget #4 – God help me to see my kids with a mirror.

If I am honest, I would tell you that I struggle hard with being critical of my children. Most days I have to remember that they are KIDS (my dad just reminded me of that today) and that they are learning to be big people.

They aren’t big people yet.

I need help in changing my perspective and my reactions with my kids. I need help giving up control. Lord, help me look more at how I can change myself instead of focusing on making them perfect little people that always do things exactly like I want.

Like today – I mean, can’t we just have a normal picnic without drama little people???

Here’s more info about Lisa-Jo’s book if you’re interested. I love this:

“Along the way she has discovered three key things about motherhood. One, motherhood is hard. Two, motherhood is glorious. Three, motherhood is very hard.”

Amen to that!

Here’s to being surprised by motherhood – on our good days and our not-so-good days too.

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