I opened my daily devotional email in the early morning hours from Proverbs 31 Ministries yesterday and these words lingered in my mind long after I closed the email browser on my phone:
There’s a simple, yet incredibly dangerous little script many of us play in our minds. It might even be one of the biggest things that holds us back from feeling fulfilled in our relationship with God. It’s a script tangled in a lie that typically goes something like this: I could really be happy and fulfilled if only I had …
… a skinnier body.
… a husband.
… a husband who was more tender and romantic.
… more money.
… a better personality.
… a baby.
I don’t know what your “If only I had” statements are, but I do know this: None of them will bring fulfillment. They might bring temporary moments of happiness … but not true fulfillment. Apart from a thriving relationship with God, even if we got everything on our list, there would still be a hollow gap in our soul. (Lysa TerKeurst, Proverbs 31 Ministries)
Did you catch that one line???
“…I do know this: None of them will bring fulfillment.”
None of them.
Not a house.
Not a status.
Not a child.
Not a spouse.
Not a church.
Not a job.
Not a career.
Not a dream.
The ONLY thing that will fill that hollow gap in our soul is God.
So, whatever you placed into your blank – “If only I had _______.” – know that apart from God you will still be left wanting more.
The lyrics from Clear the Stage by Jimmy Needham echoed in my mind as I thought about what I’ve tried to fill the blank with in my own life.
Anything I put before my God is an idol
Anything I want with all my heart is an idol
Anything I can’t stop thinking of is an idol
Anything that I give all my love is an idol
As we gather with our friends and families over the coming days the temptation to compare our lives with what others have will be strong. And people will be super active on social media sharing their family photos of gatherings and laughter and smiles.
Why can’t we have their house? Why can’t we be a NORMAL family that gets along well? Why can’t we have fun like them? Why can’t I cook like her? Why can’t I entertain as well as she can??
Remember that none of those longings will ultimately give you what you’re truly searching for.
You can read the full devotional on “If Only I Had” by Lysa TerKeurst here on the Proverbs 31 website:
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