It’s coming. Black Friday.
The sales. The crowds. The madness. The craziness!
Then, I got married. And we were broke. So, the hubby and I realized there was barely enough money to pay our bills and shopping was put on hold.
This was actually OK. God knew I needed help in my life to learn the habit of self-control. That doesn’t mean I’ve stopped cold turkey. I’ve had many relapses over the years and they have not been pretty.
Just in the last month – I couldn’t help myself. I bought MORE coloring books. Christmas coloring books. I already have 5 adult coloring books. Ask me when the last time I colored was. No comment.
A good indicator that I’m making progress is when I attended a family sale at Belk’s Department store a few weeks ago. I considered so many good deals, but I simply didn’t need the items. I walked out with 2 items – a sweater (which I still probably didn’t need) and a jacket for the hubby. I could have gotten luggage and shoes and all sorts of crap. I didn’t. Progress people. Progress. I spent $30 🙂
Still – I LOVE a good bargain and I’ve learned a few things during my recovery from shopaholism. Side note: I think my love for bargains and the claaaraaance section comes from Glennie the Great. Can you believe she left this earth 3 years ago today?? Goodness I miss her!
If you’re like me and you struggle with your love of shopping, remember these words of wisdom before the flashy sales papers make their way into your hands this Thanksgiving.
5 THINGS A RECOVERING SHOPAHOLIC SHOULD DO ON BLACK FRIDAY:
#1 – Stay away from the stores. This is pretty much a given. If you go, you will get sucked in. Believe me – staying away from the malls, traffic and long lines will make you enjoy the holiday even more.
#2 – Find another activity to keep you busy and distracted from the sales. I’ve planned a fun day trip to the mountains this week to visit family. We have a schedule and people to meet. Even if I was tempted, it would be super difficult to work in shopping at the mall.
#3 – Don’t even open all the sales emails you’re gonna get this week. Hit delete as soon as you see them. These emails will try to work their magic, y’all. Get ready. Your inbox is about to get FLOODED. Be prepared. Either don’t check email (if you can get away with that). Or just automatically delete the sales before being tempted.
#4 – Make a list. If you are going to shop for certain items on black Friday, make a list and stick to it. If at all possible, do online research to find your best sale. Also, search for coupons and promo codes before you buy. Many times your best sale will be online or to find a deal at a specific store. Last year we bought a vacuum cleaner and it was a fantastic deal. I did my research, found the best price and purchased online and had it shipped to the store for free. I even picked it up the same day. I did not pay attention to all the other sales. I JUST bought my vacuum cleaner. If you are shopping, find someone to hold you accountable. Take them to the store with you or have them sit at the computer while you shop. Tell them, “DO NOT LET ME BUY ANYTHING ELSE.”
#5 – Take cash or your debit card. Dave Ramsey is super smart. Cash envelopes, y’all. If you have a set budget, use that. DON’T YOU DARE TAKE THAT CREDIT CARD TO THE STORE or even have it accessible at home for online shopping. You will regret it. Spend what you have and no more.
Honestly, our culture has put so much emphasis on shopping and stuff and almost all of us have everything we need and more. Believe me, I get it. Shopping is fun. It’s enjoyable to do with friends. But, it can also lead to very dark and depressing places. The stuff is not worth it. The older I get, the more I value experiences over things. Let me travel. Let me see the world.
I don’t have plans to buy anything this weekend. That’s kind of nice to know I can sit back and relax. We don’t buy expensive gifts for anyone, so our budget for gifts is relatively small. And I’m planning to keep it that way!
Here’s hoping that you stay strong and focused this week, fellow shopaholics! And then there won’t be as much stuff to declutter next #trashouttuesday. Amen? Amen!
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