#slowitdownSunday / Instagram followers may fade, meaningful connections will last a lifetime

the daily Starr slow it down Sunday

First of all – I could REALLY get on my soapbox tonight and type for hours. But, it’s Sunday night, our family has had a full day and I’m needing to go join in for bedtime prayers in just a few moments.

I want to be quick and share something God has been stirring on my heart over the past week – maybe it’s something you’ve been struggling with too.

Have you been on Instagram much? I’ve been a slow adopter. I love the thought of Instagram and I get that most of the “cooler” people and “younger” people hang there.

As for me- I’m more natural and happy on Facebook. It’s more my thing and more of my people are there (does that mean I’m old???). It’s easier for me to connect and jump in and jump out when I have time.

But I really do want to love Instagram. So, I creep most days and don’t post there as often. Something I’ve realized quickly is that Instagram may not be as good for my soul.

I quickly find myself comparing my writing, my photos, my life, my dream business to everyone else and what they have.

That’s not good.

And then there’s the whole follower thing.

I don’t have a lot.

And soooooo many people have thousands. Geeez. I mean, my sister and bff have WAYYY more followers than me. What’s wrong with me>>>??? Don’t they like me too?? (insert me rolling my eyes here please)

Something I’ve noticed lately in the world of creative business owners on Instagram is this theme of hosting contests or giveaways or whatever in these crazy loops. Has this happened to y’all?

You see a fun giveaway. You follow the instructions. Like this photo. Follow my page. Then click the next person and keep going til you get back to me.

Have you done this???

Y’all. I’ve gone on a mad round of like 30 different pages before trying to finish the stupid giveaway. By the time I finished I felt completely used and I didn’t even remember what they were giving away.

I felt like all they wanted was for me to follow. And help them gain popularity.

And it didn’t make me feel super happy inside.

I felt taken.

I get it. I do. They are marketing themselves and it works.

But I didn’t like how it made me feel.

There’s so many variations of this on social media – Instagram and Facebook. And if I’m being honest, I’ve hosted a couple of giveaways on our Real Estate business page before in our early days of using social media. I didn’t like the way I felt as a business owner – like I was using people to get likes. So, I stopped.

When it comes to the end of the day, I’d rather have a following of people we know, people we can connect with, people that want to be involved in our business. Rather than a bunch of crazies that came to win an iPad.

That’s just me.

The more I watch Instagram, the more pressure I feel to do these types of giveaways or hashtags promotions, or whatever it is to make yourself known.

I don’t want that.

I want to go back to a social media where I just posted fun photos of my family and my day and there wasn’t a pressure to create a brand for yourself. There wasn’t the pressure to have a beautifully planned feed.

And you might be thinking to yourself, but Starr – don’t you giveaway items on your blog? Yes. Yes, I do. But I have never required anyone to subscribe or anything like that. I giveaway items to say thank you for reading. And that’s how I plan to keep it.

I don’t want you to feel like I’m trying to sell you on anything. I’m not.

I want to make meaningful connections and I actually pray that my blog falls into the hands of whoever is supposed to read it. And if you’re reading right now, that’s you.

It may not be Instagram or anything related to social media. Maybe you feel pressure to be more like someone you work with or that neighbor up the street. Don’t.

Be YOU.

And if you get caught up in trying to be popular and famous, let me remind you of one thing. Popularity will fade. The next big thing will take over. And you’ll be left with the life you’ve created and those that know you best.

I want to work at pleasing those special people instead of trying to gain a following of those who don’t even know my last name.

We watched the movie Woodlawn at church tonight.

I would highly recommend that you see it – a fantastic faith based movie – based on a true story from Birmingham Alabama in the 1970s. Find this movie. Soooo sooo good.

At one point, there were two coaches talking to each other and the conversation went something like this:

Coach Geralds: I’ve wanted to do two things: Win a playoff and coach a truly great player. …You’ve done both. Which is better?

Other Coach: Rings collect dust. That [pointing to Tony]. That’ll [last forever].

Yes.

Rings and popularity and Instagram followers, those will collect dust. Meaningful connections and impacting a person’s life – that’ll last forever.

Ok, so much for me typing something quick. I have to go have bedtime prayers with my people now.

Goodnight, friends.

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8 replies to “#slowitdownSunday / Instagram followers may fade, meaningful connections will last a lifetime

  1. Thank you Starr Love you so much. You truly touch my heart. Keep posting. Love you just as your are,, because it’s sincere. Remembering you and your family in my prayers..nite nite.. sweet dreams.

    1. Oh Jan, thank you for your sweet words. I’m encouraged by you and our entire church family. Y’all help me stay grounded and loved. Love you, friend!

  2. Comparison has been eating away at my heart for a long time. I hate the way it makes me feel. God has my life in His hands. My perfect, well planned, thought out to every last detail life. Why does my heart seem to think I need different than what He has provided?!?

    1. This is sooo true, Kelly! You aren’t the only one. I’m trying to be more in tune to what makes me feel the need to compare and limit my take and energy on those things. I will be praying for you too, friend!

  3. Starr, I love you and your soap box! Ha. I guess I am missing the whole point of Instagram. I really just like to make a picture to go with my post. Then I post the picture on instagram. I still don’t understand # s and why to use them and where to use them. I know that makes me old. I love that i found your post and I pray that I never lose it and you don’t stop. (if you do I totally understand)

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