#1wordwednesday / let’s talk about being a CONTROL freak

Have you ever considered yourself a CONTROL freak?


I have.

I’m pretty horrible at controlling things, though. Amen? Amen.

Many times I find myself with fists clinched so tightly in controlling situations that I completely miss the mark on what matters most. For example, I am a crazy woman when it comes to people/guests helping me in the kitchen. Just ask my friends.

I can’t stand for anyone visiting our home to help clean or put dishes away. It’s not that I don’t want them to help – I hate when people don’t do things like I WOULD DO THEM. And it’s my house.


Complete control freak here. And a bit of a spoiled brat. Can you tell???

I don’t want my dishes put up in the wrong cabinet.
I don’t want anything misplaced.
I have a method to the madness and don’t you dare mess with my method.

I failed horribly at this exact situation just last weekend. We had friends and family visiting and I did not want them helping in the kitchen. This habit of controlling backfired on me.

These sneaky friends went behind my back and cleaned up anyways. And then, being the clever friends they are – they left notes with Bible scriptures to make mends for their actions. Note: Kayla had to write sentences several times as punishment over the weekend, so my friends did their sentences as premeditated punishment.

Goodness, I couldn’t help but laugh. I love my friends.

Can you see why I selected this topic for the month of August in our #lessin2016 plan:
less need to control people and situations

Ok – now that you all realize I have a serious control problem, let’s move on.

As you sit around the dinner table, television or wherever you end up this evening with your people, how about bring up this #1wordwednesday topic of CONTROL?

Here are a few questions to spark your conversation:

  1. What things do you struggle with in letting go of control? How can your family and friends help with this?
  2. How does it make you feel when someone else tries to control you?
  3. What are a few examples of good self control?
  4. Write down one thing you want to give up trying to force control. Fold that paper up and put it inside your Bible, giving it completely to God.


These scriptures help me in my crazy woman kitchen control issues:

“Let go of your concerns! Then you will know that I am God. I rule the nations. I rule the earth.” (Psalm 46:10 GW)

Proverbs 16:9 ESV / The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.

Hebrews 2:8 ESV / Putting everything in subjection under his feet.” Now in putting everything in subjection to him, he left nothing outside his control. At present, we do not yet see everything in subjection to him.

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  1. Me! So ME!!! I always feel the need to be in control. This is something I struggle with every. Single. Day!! It’s so hard to let go of….trust me I try daily!
    P.S. I didn’t clean anything while I was there….and you know that was hard for me! Lol:)

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    • Haha well I’m glad you held out and didn’t clean while you were here, friend! We are in this together. I’ll pray for both of our controliness issues 🙂


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