#thirstythursday / just shut your mouth, Starr

Earlier this week I sat in a Bible study for young moms. There were several women sharing their hearts on marriage, children, contentment and such.

Renee Swope was one of those moms sharing her story and I can’t get my mind off the life she spoke into my heart.

At one point in her marriage she became terribly critical of her husband. He couldn’t do anything right and so much of what he did got on her nerves.

Ummmmm, I’m pretty sure we’ve all been there, right?

I mean – except for my husband. I’m perfect in every way and I would never do anything to get on his nerves…..


I’ve been known to slip into seasons of being overly critical – not just with my husband, but with my children, with my co-workers, etc.

Renee shared how God really spoke to her about being critical with her husband. God said something like, “Shut your mouth, Renee!”

Essentially He was inviting her to bring all those criticisms to Him instead of her husband.

Every time you are tempted to criticize him, bring it to me.
Only speak words of encouragement to your husband.

Let this be my reminder. Yup.

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And then, y’all. Someone on the panel said THIS:

Your husband is already struggling to feel confident in being a provider for your family and being a good husband to you. Don’t join with the enemy to bring him down.

Did you get that?

Don’t help the enemy destroy your husband.


I don’t want to help the enemy do ANYTHING, much less destroy the man I love.

I walked away from this week’s Bible study determined to be an encourager instead of a critic.

“So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:11

As I’m tempted to be quick to criticize, Lord, let me remember Your Word and choose encouragement instead.

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#makeovermonday / Judy’s $2 nightstand

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#slowitdownSunday / she asked me this question: what would you do?

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#shareitsaturday / my 3 favorite devotional books

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#funfriday – a mother/daughter road trip & learning calligraphy!

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#thirstythursday / I don’t want to give packaged Christian answers

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  1. Very powerful!! I love this. We have PMS moments (praise my spouse) in our sunday school. So we are focusing on what we can praise each other for, rather than focusing on what your spouse did that upset you or irritated you that week.

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    • Haha that made me laugh – PMS moments!! I should tell my Sunday School class to start this! It is amazing what a different perspective can do for a relationship.


  2. Thank you. This was exactly what I needed to hear. I am working lots of overtime at work and the church I attend is having to close, so I have been so stressed. Frustrated with all the other stuff I have to do and I have taken it out on my husband. Our first anniversary is in September and I don’t want his memory to be the mood I have been in lately. So I too am going to prayer and I ask you and anyone else to help me pray as well. We have 2 Sundays left in the church that my dad pastored for 21 years. This is going to be hard on me and the few that had stood firm at the church. I need my husband to be my rock not my punching bag.

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    • Oh Melody, my heart aches for you tonight as I read these words. Ministry can be so very hard and difficult. Being a Pastor’s kid opens your eyes to so much – the beautiful and the messy parts of church. I have had to walk away from a church before where my dad ministered and poured his life into making it a loving house of worship. It is not easy. I will be praying that God opens your eyes to the journey ahead and that even in this season you find purpose and encouragement. I pray for the body of believers in your church that they find peace and healing. I pray that God leads and directs each of you to the place He has already prepared for you to serve Him. Thank you for sharing this part of your story and letting me know how I can lift you up. Love you, friend.


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