#1wordwednesday / HONESTY (if I expect it from my kids, why not me?)

Today’s #1wordwednesday is something we’re currently dealing with as parents: HONESTY.

On more than one occasion over the past week, both of our girls have gotten into trouble for not telling us the truth.

Having your child lie to you is hard. It’s one of the toughest things we’ve faced – it breaks trust, it causes doubt, it’s ugly.

And for us, it’s been one of the most serious topics for discussion in disciplining our children. We want them to understand the significance of telling the truth. We want them to really get one thing about this family: WE TELL THE TRUTH – NO MATTER WHAT.

The more I’ve thought about our conversations with the girls, the more I’ve closely examined my own life.

How can I expect my children to always tell the truth if I’m not completely honest 100% of the time?

My reputation as a mom and a Christian are on the line every single day. Those two little girls are always listening and they want to grow up to be just like me.

And most people in this world know that I’m a Christian – I even lead the choir in our church. I hear people talk about hypocrites in the church all the time. Am I being one of those reasons so many steer clear of Christianity?

Several years ago my dad preached a sermon I’ll never forget. It had to do with honesty and our duty as Christians to do the right thing – even when it wasn’t easy or convenient.

The examples he gave have never left my mind:

What do you do when you’re charged the wrong amount at the grocery store and it is in your favor? Do you tell someone you owe more money or quietly hope they don’t notice you got away with more than you should have?

When filling up your fountain drink at the convenience store (where there are no free refills – you pay by the size of your cup of choice) do you top off the drink with several large gulps and put in a little more before getting your lid and paying?

Have you ever realized when you got home you weren’t charged for something at the department store in your order? Did you go back to pay for the items you received or just forget about it and think they’ll never notice?

What do you do when the kid’s menu clearly says children 5 and under – but your child is 6? Do they magically change their age for dinner??

Sure. You might laugh.

But, I have never viewed these small insignificant scenarios the same again.

Every day we are faced with decisions.

And those decisions aren’t always going to be easy. In fact, sometimes it will be the harder road. Sometimes it might actually take more time, more energy, more money – to do the right thing.

It certainly won’t be the most popular road to take.

A little white lie may seem harmless. A decision to leave out important details that could make you look bad seems like the better choice. A bit of a stretch-of-reality to make something work.

All harmless?

Not really.

Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out. – Proverbs 10:9

I firmly believe in this verse. If we walk with integrity and honesty in everything we do, we can be secure. If we aren’t, we are sure to be found out sooner or later.

I also think about this verse from Luke. I’ve prayed for a long time that God would use me in writing and in publishing a book one day. Those are big things. If I can’t be trusted in the little things, how can God trust me in the big things?

One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much, and one who is dishonest in a very little is also dishonest in much. If then you have not been faithful in the unrighteous wealth, who will entrust to you the true riches? And if you have not been faithful in that which is another’s, who will give you that which is your own? – Luke 16:10-12

And lastly, if I want my children to be 100% honest, 100% of the time – then I need to be the same.

And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them. – Luke 6:31

Yep, not a fun blog post today. But that’s what has been running around in my brain for a few days and it feels much better once I get it all out here on my little keyboard.

I hope you’re encouraged to do the right thing – always. Honesty.

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  1. Great read. Our world is so used to stretching the truth, as they say, that most do not even know when they are being dishonest. I am a people watcher and I listen even when people don’t think I am, I hear this stretching from people who would never tell a lie. Where do we draw the line? Is there even a place to draw it? I want to always be known as honest and trustworthy.

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    • Sooooo agree, Melody!!! I’m with you 100%. It’s become so common and accepted. I don’t want to be like everyone else. I want to be honest all of the time! Thank you for commenting, friend!


  2. That was truly one of your dad’s best sermons! I too have never forgotten or viewed those scenarios the same way again, in fact that same Sunday ( I was 7months pregnant) I had to return to Walmart because they forgot to charge me for everything under my buggy…. It was about $50 worth of stuff. And my oldest son was with me. He was watching and heard why I returned to pay for those items. We are Christians and we pay for all our items, if not it is considered stealing and not being honest, even when it is the cashiers fault ( cause I told him 4 times not to forget). I want to be honest even when it is hard for me. This was a REAL blog! Thanks for the reminder to be honest, that is what we expect from others and our kids, and should from ourselves too. You inspire me daily Starr πŸ™‚

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    • Agreed!!! I’ve always remembered this sermon. It has made a difference in those moments where I may be tempted to do what’s popular instead of what’s right – even when it is harder!!! Thank you for commenting πŸ™‚ I’m glad we’re on the same page, friend!!


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