#slowitdownSunday / but everybody else is doing it…

#slowitdownSunday: Be intentional. Create moments to unrush if you haven’t already today.

Ok y’all: My husband does a better job at not getting caught up in the hooplah of life than myself.

For example, as we gathered at my in-law’s house tonight for our annual big Haigler Christmas gathering, I realized that most other parents of small children had brought 1 present for their kids to open during gift time.

I. Had. Not. Done. This.

I’m not sure what kind of disconnect I had. Yes, I realize that this is what we have done for the past 5-6 years. Yes, I should not have been surprised when all the other kids starting getting their presents.

Now, before you freak out and think I’m a horrible mom that just let her kids sit there empty handed, let me assure you that THEY STILL HAD GIFTS!!

That’s because even though we decided to not do “gifts” everybody gets all caught up in “just a little something…”

And I’m guilty too.

I brought my “just a little something” for each family, which I had to finish preparing 30 minutes before we walked out the door for said family gathering – the gathering that we were almost an hour late to because I simply could not get it all done today. And I didn’t even have a nap, bless.

Does this sound familiar to anyone else?

Why does it bother me to keep up with what everybody else does? Will my family feel that I think less of them if I don’t spend $1-$2 and slap a pretty name tag on a baggie with junk that more than likely may sit in a bin in their junk room until next Christmas?

My kids are well taken care of in the gift category – a little too well taken care of and it needs to scale back.

I’m tired of spending my energy to keep up with what everyone thinks we are supposed to do.

And my husband has no problem as he says, “No one will stop unless someone is the first to decide to end the madness. That can be us.”

Yes, he is so right.

God is surely working on our family to be different.

We can be the first to step up and say we aren’t going along because it’s “what we’re supposed to do!”

Can I get an AMEN?

As we all reflect on this last Sabbath before Christmas, I wanted to share this quote that stuck out to me today:

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Did you catch that? “Give Him room to breathe new life upon the sparse places of your soul!”

YES! I want to give Him more room to take over these places of my soul where I struggle SOO badly to keep up with everyone around me.

God, give us a unique boldness to follow the path you have set before us. To be different, to be set apart, to be an example of your love and joy. I can’t be an example of that joy if I’m overwhelmed with keeping up. Lord, help me!

Proverb of the Day:
A person may think their own ways are right, but the Lord weighs the heart. To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice. [Proverbs 21:2-3]


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  1. Wow!!!! AMEN! AMEN! Thank you for the reminder. I am struggling with this too. I think if they buy for us we should buy for them, my Brian is constantly reminding me we don’t have to. Great blog tonight! (As usual) πŸ™‚


  2. Starr….. You are awesome!! I love your sweet heart! Several years ago I had to go against the stream with Christmas at so many different things and I am so glad I put my foot down! Don’t hesitate to say you dont want to do something – it will pay off in the long run!!! You make Christmas special and intentional and your girls won’t care at all about missing out on anything!!!


    • Thank you sweet Becca~!!! I remember you talking last year about the no gifts with your kids and it has totally stuck with me. Thank you for the encouragement and for always being such an inspiration for my family! Merry Christmas to you and yours ❀


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